Love yourself enough, so you can protect yourself from any type of abuse. Any type of abuse is not acceptable. All types of abuse either emotional, psychological, physical, sexual abuse or manipulation and gaslighting. Any type of abuse breaks the soul into fragments causing anxiety and depression. That’s why any abuse is not acceptable at all terms legally, psychologically, medically and spiritually.

Love yourself enough, so you set assertive boundaries and care for your psychological and mental health.

Any one of us can be exposed to any type of abuse throughout our lives. The question here is does any person who is exposed to abuse is a victim of abuse? In other words, what makes people victims of abuse?

The victim of abuse is any person who is exposed to any type of abuse then he/she stayed silent, didn’t take any measures to protect themselves, didn’t set assertive boundaries and make a clear assertive message for the abuser of what will be the consequences on the abuser, if the abuser repeats the abuse he/she did before.

Also, the victims of abuse didn’t stand up for themselves. they internalize the abuse inside their souls, let it break them, making their soul into fragments causing anxiety, depression and in some cases PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

When any human being do not stand up for themselves, do not protect themselves from abuse and do not set assertive boundaries that reflect lacking of self love. That’s why from my experience as a psychiatrist and psychotherapist with cases of abuse and victims of abuse, I found that the most effective intervention is self-love focused psychotherapy with incredible results in about 30 cases with total disappearance of symptoms of anxiety and depression, loving themselves more and setting health assertive boundaries and protecting themselves from further abuse. And such results were reached in a period of 3 to 6 months in the 30 cases according to how much they follow the steps and exercises of therapy and also according to the intensity of the abuse they were exposed to before the start of the therapy.

While, if a person who love him/herself enough was exposed to any type of abuse; he/she will stand up for themselves, put assertive boundaries by making a clear message for the abuser of the consequences if the abuse occurs again, he/she will protect themselves from further abuse, get support from as much people as he/she can, make all the people surrounding them see the abuser and the abuse he/she did, get as much evidence as he/she can that makes abuse clearly seen as abusers are always very manipulative, they play with your words, and change reality and are great actors, so don’t give them the opportunity to turn all people surrounding you against you. That’s why getting support of as much people as you can is important.

When a person who loves him/herself enough do that, he/she feels secure, they don’t internalize abuse as they stand up for themselves, so their soul will not become fragments and they are not affected by any anxiety or any depression or PTSD. Then, they move on fast and easily as they stand up for themselves and protect themselves and their rights as human beings.

Always, love yourself enough, because you deserve it, because you are worthy, because you are unique, special, one of a kind.

I believe that every human being, every person is unique, special, one of a kind.

So always see that and always believe in yourself.

Love & Respect.

Dr. Asrar Elseraty, MD, ACC.